Who run the World?

I wanted to do a blog based on International Women’s Day and how we are quite possibly the most remarkable creatures on earth 😉...However, it got me thinking about what we have to go through as women and how a diagnosis can change you as a female.

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve never been into this ‘feminism‘ malarkey, but I’m all for preaching about strong women and I am absolutely raising a boss girl who will not take shit from anyone (just like her mama 💪🏻), however I thought I’d delve slightly into my recently struggles and about how my diagnosis has now meant that I can’t have anymore children.

The fact my cancer is ‘incurable’ means that I won’t be able to carry/have anymore of my own kids. Never did I ever imagine Indie would be an only child (I wanted 3, David absolutely didn’t hahaha🤪) and never did I think at the age of 26 would I be done having children... however this is the card we have been dealt and I should & do feel very lucky that I already have her and I am so grateful for her... but I still don’t think I have ‘grieved’ for the loss of not being able to have anymore babies. I assume this will come in time and it’s something I will learn to hopefully ‘be ok’ with (as I have no other choice 😂), but it also got me thinking into how much cancer can affect young adults and the idea of fertility.

When you type ‘women’ into google search, this description comes up: ‘1a : a female person : a woman or a girl. b : an individual of the sex that is typically capable of bearing young or producing eggs’.

I find this (especially in the 21st bloody century) the most bizarre description ever. Our fertility DOES not and SHOULD not define us as women. Just because we cannot and some of us chose not to have children does not mean we are any less of a women or any less worthy of anything. We are mothers, daughters, nieces and friends, dreamers, entrepreneurs and can DO and BE whoever we want to be and this shouldn’t be within the limitations of our womb!

I know it’s easy for me to say this as I have the gift of a daughter already so the ‘loss’ isn’t so much for me, but I know plenty of women who don’t want children or can’t have children and that’s ok too. I don’t want anyone to doubt for one second what you are capable of and how powerful being a woman is (with or without bearing children).

So, use today to celebrate exactly who you are and just how far you’ve come. We all have our own battles and the fact we get through them everyday is a blessing in itself. We are so much more than what we see on social media or what a google search or a dictionary may say about us.

Just remember what women should be; who and what the hell we want 💪🏻.

Rach x